We create our lives out of the ideas, feelings, and emotions we have at any given time. However, much of our time is spent dwelling on the past or planning for the future. Authentic present-moment life is a rarity for most of us. The stressors we experience on a daily basis are the result of our own acceptance of both previous experiences and future expectations. The truth is that the ordinary individual is just a collection of reflexes and nerves that are continually being set off by external stimuli. The ups and downs of daily life are often the conditions. However, there are moments when we feel as though we can’t handle any more of life’s demands, disappointments, or worries.
Relationships can turn poisonous or terminate suddenly as we move through life; professions can lose their luster or end, and internal discord might suddenly surface as physical symptoms at any point. So frequently in our lives, we have come to identify with the roles we play in our relationships and at work. I am a mom, a woman, a manager, and a vice president are all statements of identity that can be used in this context.
Right time to know yourself
There might be a sense of loss, emptiness, or perplexity when the roles and aspects of our life that we’ve relied on for so long to identify us and boost our self-esteem no longer meet our requirements. Meditation, an age-old discipline, may, thankfully, help us reconnect with our inner selves. In this process, we come to understand that who we are is more than the sum of our desires and past experiences. We are more than the constant mental eddies and currents that make us who we are, even if our identities do develop from the interaction of these patterns of desire and memory. We are the unlimited ocean of consciousness, the thinker behind the thinking, the observer behind the observation. We recognize, not via deliberate effort, but rather on our own accord, that we can make decisions and act on them. Through regular meditation, we may gradually restore inner peace, joy, and love, and ultimately reconnect with our true, unchanging nature.
To reconnect with a more serene existence, we can use water to gently wash away the worry, anxiety, fear, and bewilderment that typically follow someone at a crossroads. And from that point on, a life full of joy, harmony, balance, and serenity is ours for the asking.
How to Connect with Inner self
So what makes you closer with your inner-self is when you are absorbed profoundly within yourself. Let’s examine several practices that can become second nature and aid in developing a stronger bond with your inner self:
Sitting with oneself (meditation): while we sit with ourselves, many ideas arise, both pleasant and negative; the latter give rise to negative emotions like worry and melancholy, which is why most of us avoid meditation in the first place.
However, in order to strengthen your bonds and develop resilience, you must face your deepest fears and make sure you don’t validate them by asking yourself “why did it happen to me?” or “What could I have done?” or “I didn’t do enough,” etc., because doing so will only make you feel more down and helpless about something that may have happened in the past over which you had no control.
The answer is not to give credence to such ideas, but to let them go. If you have a thought that causes you to feel down, depressed, angry, or helpless, instead of dwelling on it, tell your mind that it is ok that this thought is coming in your mind, accept that this happened, and then choose to release it by saying aloud, “I release these thoughts from my mind, body, and soul.
Take a good, long, loving look at yourself: it’s common to develop a critical attitude toward oneself as a result of one’s life experiences. Stress, anxiety, and a loss of connection with our inner resources result from these types of emotions.
Look at yourself with kindness — when you can say “thank you” to a stranger for the most random act, you can definitely say “thank you” to your own self. Simply acknowledging your worth or giving yourself a pat on the back may do wonders for your connection to your true self.
When it comes to developing a strong bond with our inner selves, self-love or self-care is just as crucial. Lack of self-love and -care is a major barrier to establishing a rapport with one’s inner self.
Detox from digital media; take a break from the internet, social media, the news, etc. Many of us have 24-hour news cycles in our homes, or we check our social media accounts frequently throughout the day. For one day each week, unplug completely by putting away your phone and turning off the television in favor of doing something you like, such as listening to music, spending time with your pet (if you have one), gardening, dancing, or exercising.
Positive and stress-reducing hormones are both boosted by these pursuits. These actions will help you feel refreshed and at peace.
Keeping a journal can help when your mind is racing and you need a place to collect your ideas and organize them. This results in a loss of identity and a sense of being overwhelmed.
I’ve discovered that keeping a notebook is a great way to cleanse my head and relax my body. Start your day or night with a few minutes of freewriting to get your thoughts out of your head. Try not to analyze or evaluate the ideas; instead, write down all you’re experiencing. Writing down or typing out your feelings might help you feel better and open up to yourself more. However, a word of caution: sharing your innermost thoughts and feelings on social media leaves you vulnerable to the scrutiny and judgment of others. Allow yourself to have a totally personal experience.
Mindfulness and focused attention
Concentration is not the same as meditating. Concentration is focusing on a single concept, symbol, or point; meditation involves silencing the mind and achieving mental silence. Focusing one’s attention is a common first step in the practice of meditation, but eventually, the goal shifts to one of abandoning all thinking.
Concentration techniques exist outside of traditional meditation as well; one such technique is visualization, in which one directs one’s thoughts toward a goal by use of an internalized series of pictures (often visual but sometimes audio).
On the other side, the goal of meditation is to help us break free of our constant need to analyze, ponder, and speak out, so fostering a sense of mental discipline and contentment. When you meditate, you’re not just doing it to go there; you’re doing it to get somewhere.
When we meditate, we demonstrate mastery over our feelings and ideas, and regular meditation helps us maintain a harmonious state of being on all levels of being.